We all know that life is not always unicorns and rainbows. Some days it feels like no matter what you do or who you talk to, it just plane ole sucks! I get it. I’ve been in a dark space or two before and I know what it’s like to be on that “If One More Thing Happens…” treadmill we experience as life. Some seasons come and go and some stick around for a while.
When no one is around to support you, for whatever reason, it’s important to have some go to strategies that you can pull you out of your funk, totally shift your experience and help you find that happy place again.
Claim Your Happiness
In order to embody happiness you must own the fact that you alone are responsible for experiencing it. Happiness is a journey and you’re going to have ups and downs, but you gotta keep on keepin’ on no matter what. One thing that helps sustain happiness it to NOT compare yourself to others. Most or Some of the time they are struggling to maintain their happiness as well. Appearances can be deceiving. What you’re actually witnessing is their ability to master the projection of happiness. The key to success here is to define your own happiness and then create it.
Lighten Your Load
You’ve heard that saying “you can’t pour from an empty vessell” right? Well you, also, can’t fly with a hundred pounds of kryptonite on your back either. Remember, kryptonite was the only thing that could stop superman dead in his tracks. You are not responsible for other people’s happiness. We all have our own burdens to bare; so unload that kryptonite and restore your strength. You can’t save everybody; in fact, that job has already been taken. Make a commitment to meet your needs first so that when you are available to help others you’re not completely depleted. Stop allowing other people’s emergencies become your emergency.
Treat Yourself – You’re Worth IT
Self – Care is one of the most, if not the most, important contributor to your happiness. Create a list of at least 30 self – care ideas that you can refer to when you need a little boost of happiness on a not so happy day. Some examples are: go for a walk in nature (the sun provides vitamin d that naturally boosts your energy and your mood), take a hot bubble bath ( for extra zing, drop in a bath bomb from lush – they are colorful, they smell amazing and they fizzle!), create a dance playlist on itunes, YouTube or Pandora and move your boo-tay, and last, but not least, light some scented candles or purchase a diffuser and drop in some aromatherapy oils (lemon grass or lavender are two of my personal faves).
Be Realistic and Expect Miracles
Know that even though you can’t trace God; you can trust that everything is working out for your good. Delayed is not denied. When things don’t work out as you expected them to work out, it can weigh heavily on your self esteem and you may start to feel like you’re not good enough. It’s not true and your circumstances don’t define who you are or what God has in store for you. When you live from a space of expectancy; you attract what you’re focused on. So be intentional and BE HAPPY!
Live Out Loud
Society tells us that we should get that degree, marry that man, have those kids, and take the corner office and those things are “ok” if that’s truly YOUR desire. But what becomes of you after you’ve worked yourself silly for 35 years, you’ve retired at 67 (if you’re able to do so), maybe your boo left you, you got sick or a loved one died and you look up and find that you never lived while you were making a life for yourself? I challenge you to live everyday like’s it’s your last day on earth. Travel and travel often. Have a glass of wine! Run naked (not outside though – not a good idea – ok at least wait until it’s dark)! Move to another state – heck move to another country if you feel inclined! Learn a new language. Line dance. Whatever it is you wanna do – Just Go For It!